How to Choose the Right Midwife for You

Choosing a midwife is one of the most important decisions you’ll make during your pregnancy—not just because they’ll be there when your baby arrives, but because they’ll be walking beside you through the entire journey. The right midwife isn’t just skilled—they see you, hear you, and help you feel safe, informed, and empowered. At Attuned Midwifery Service, we want every family to find the provider who’s the right fit for them—even if it’s not us. Here’s what to consider when choosing a midwife and how to know when you’ve found the one who aligns with your values and vision.

1. Know Your Birth Priorities

Start by asking yourself:

• Do I want a home birth, birth center, or hospital birth?

• Do I prefer minimal interventions and a natural birth approach?

• How important is continuity—seeing the same provider throughout pregnancy and birth?

• Do I want someone who honors emotional, spiritual, or cultural aspects of care?

Knowing what matters most to you helps guide the search from the start.

2. Understand the Types of Midwives

There are different kinds of midwives, and knowing the difference can help narrow your options:

• Certified Professional Midwife (CPM): Specializes in out-of-hospital birth (home or birth center). Trained in physiological birth and emergency management.

• Certified Nurse-Midwife (CNM): A registered nurse with advanced training in midwifery. Often practices in hospitals or birth centers, and sometimes at home.

• Traditional/Community Midwives: May serve specific cultural or community groups. Credentials vary by region.

Ask what type of midwife they are and where they are licensed to practice.

3. Ask the Right Questions

Your first consultation or interview is key. Here are a few powerful questions to ask:

• What is your training and certification?

• How many births have you attended?

• What is your philosophy of birth?

• How do you handle complications or transfers?

• Who will attend my birth?

• What kind of prenatal and postpartum care do you offer?

• How do you support emotional and mental health?

Pay attention not just to the answers, but how you feel during the conversation.

4. Trust the Relationship

The best midwife-client relationships are built on:

• Trust

• Mutual respect

• Clear communication

• Shared decision-making

You should feel safe to ask questions, express fears, and speak openly. If something feels “off,” it’s okay to keep looking. Your instincts matter.

5. Consider Logistics, Too

Details like availability, location, fees, and insurance coverage also matter. Ask:

• How many clients do you take per month?

• Do you work solo or in a team?

• What’s included in your care package?

• Do you offer payment plans or accept health savings accounts?

You deserve care that fits both your vision and your life.

6. Look for Midwives Who Center You

A great midwife is someone who:

• Listens without judgment

• Offers evidence-based guidance

• Centers your preferences and autonomy

• Holds space for your questions, fears, and growth

Midwifery care isn’t about control—it’s about collaboration.

Final Thoughts

The right midwife doesn’t just check boxes—they make you feel seen, safe, and supported. Whether you're planning your first birth or seeking a different experience this time around, you deserve care that’s attuned to you. At Attuned Midwifery Service, we believe the best outcomes come from strong relationships, clear communication, and care that honors your body and your choices.